Name: 

Isiah McKimmie

Qualifications: 

Relationship Counsellor, Couples Therapist & Sex Therapist
Over 15 years of clinical experience in sexual health, intimacy, and relationships

Where can we find you?

You can find me at Relationship Harmony with Isiah McKimmie, where my team and I support individuals and couples with intimacy, communication, and sexual wellbeing. I also offer professional training around sexual health and relationships to therapists and healthcare professionals.

You can also find me on my podcast, Our Patients Are Having Sex.

Why do you love what you do?  

I love this work because sex and relationships sit at the centre of how people experience their lives, yet they’re often the areas people feel the least supported in.
When intimacy feels confusing, painful, or disconnected, it can quietly affect confidence, mental health, and relationships. Being able to help people feel more at ease in their bodies, more confident asking for what they need, and more connected in their relationships is an incredible privilege.

Why would someone come and see you? 

People come to see me when sex or intimacy feels difficult, uncomfortable, or strained, whether that’s due to pain, low desire, relationship changes, life transitions, or simply not knowing how to talk about what they’re experiencing.
I work with individuals and couples across all life stages, including postpartum, perimenopause, menopause, and long-term relationships where intimacy has shifted over time.

When do you introduce the idea of lubricant with your patients? 

We always begin with a full assessment so we can understand what’s going on, what someone has already tried, and what the underlying causes might be. This often includes checking whether lubricant has been used where it may be indicated, particularly when comfort, arousal, or tissue sensitivity are factors.

What’s your favourite fact about the female body? 

I think one of my favourite facts about the human body is how deeply strong, healthy relationships are connected to every measurable aspect of our health and wellbeing. One of my favourite studies in this area involved people being placed at the bottom of a hill wearing a heavy backpack and asked to estimate how steep the hill looked. When a supportive person stood beside them, the hill was consistently perceived as less steep. Life quite literally feels easier to take on when we have supportive people beside us, and I love that I get to help with that.